Our Longest Drive So Far

The bus pulled lazily along the bottom edge of the valley, leaving behind the estate and the slave graveyard and two people who suddenly felt very much like family: Andi and her father Woody.

Just the night before, Abra and Sammy had run across the room and leaped up into Woody’s arms, he had built a fire so that they could roast marshmallows, and on that very morning, as we had slept, he had placed a connected hose beside the bus so that I could fill up the fresh water tank. Then, as we prepared the bus for departure, he had taken the kids, one by one, on a tractor ride, during which it was impossible to decide who enjoyed themselves more: Woody or the children.

But that was behind us. To the left of the stone drive: thick woods and a steep hill, an introduction to the rolling land of Bremo Bluff. To the right, and the south, lay an often-traveled train track, then a wide expanse of marshy flatness, then a tree-covered incline. The bus protested as we pulled out on to Route 15, but soon enough we were rolling.

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When the time gets right
I’m gonna pick you up
And take you far away
From trouble my love
Under a big old sky
Out in a field of green
There’s gotta be something
Left for us to believe
– Tom Petty, “King’s Highway”

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The hills grew shallower towards Appomattox, or at least they seemed to, as if someone had pulled on both sides of an unruly sheet. The fields were a golden tan, looked like harvest seven months early, but the naked trees gave them away. Nearly 147 years ago, General Robert E. Lee signed surrender documents in that county after realizing his forces were hopelessly outnumbered.

If I didn’t know its history, would I still think those hills exuded a somber hue, the taste of a proud resignation? I sensed little defeat there – rather, it felt like the epicenter of some new kind of unity.

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There are stars
In the Southern sky
Southward as you go
There is moonlight
And moss in the trees
Down the Seven Bridges Road
The Eagles, “Seven Bridges Road”

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North Carolina welcomed us with heavy winds, a spitting rain, and a sudden drop in temperature. The kids grew antsy as we reached, and then exceeded, our longest drive to date, around 300 miles. And Maile and I spent a long time talking about our future after this trip, where our lives are headed, where we might end up.

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There’s a dream I keep having
Where my mama comes to me
And kneels down over by the window
And says a prayer for me
I got my own way of prayin’
But everyone’s begun
With a southern accent
Where I come from
Tom Petty, “Southern Accent”

Our Visit to a Slave Graveyard, and 150 Years of Debris

We walked through the woods to the large clearing. A barely discernible wall surrounded the area where the slaves had been buried. At the far corner, small flags stood perched at attention, fluorescent orange and blue, marking the gentle excavation already done.

It all felt, well, perhaps as haunted as any place I’ve ever been. But haunted isn’t exactly the word – inhabited? Unbearably heavy? Having been mostly forgotten but itself never forgetting? That’s the feeling the leaf-covered plot of space in the woods gave me.

“How old are you, Cade?” Andi, a friend from college and our tour guide of the estate, asked my oldest son.

“Eight,” he said proudly. Continue reading “Our Visit to a Slave Graveyard, and 150 Years of Debris”

Top Ten Lessons I Learned During Our First Week on the Bus

This is my preferred morning outfit while on the bus. Don't make fun. Maile thinks it's hot.

1 – I am not emotionally flexible. When unexpected things happen, I’m not good at taking a deep breath, letting go of my plans, and embracing the new reality. This is something I’m working on.

2 – I should wear protective headgear. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve hit my head on the outside fold-up doors, or the low-hanging television, or the cupboard above the sink after brushing my teeth.

3 – There are few things that make me feel as happy as emptying the bus’s waste tank. Leave a comment below regarding that, all you psychiatrists and counselor-types.

4 – I’m not a very good dad when I’m stressed out. This adds to the importance of me figuring out #1.

5 – Poopy diapers smell much worse in a bus than in a normal-sized house. Continue reading “Top Ten Lessons I Learned During Our First Week on the Bus”

Flowers On the Side of the Road

Sammy exploring the wilderness in his sister's pink boots.

Towards the end of what felt like a very long day, we came down the east side of a gradual mountainside in Virginia. Trees lined the highway, a sea of ash brown interspersed with the occasional drooping evergreen. The sun set behind us, pushing the bus’s shadow far in front of us, all the way into eternity.

North-facing banks held up a thick layer of snow – the south-facing banks looked soggy and water-logged. It was like driving the line between two seasons. Continue reading “Flowers On the Side of the Road”

A Message to You

Sam getting ready for breakfast.

Thank you.

Thanks to those of you who came to my parent’s house and wished us well and saw us off.

Thank you for the gift cards and laughter and well wishes.

Thank you for following along with us on our journey.

Thank you for spreading the word about the newspaper article and the news story on TV.

Thank you for praying for us.

Thanks for feeding us and letting us use your showers and park in your driveways and parking lots.

At so many various points throughout this journey (which is only a week old) I’ve met discouragement or frustration or uncertainty. And more than once your Facebook notes or Tweets or emails or blog comments have been just what I’ve needed at that particular moment. Continue reading “A Message to You”

How to Get a Bus Out of the Ditch

I stood on the narrow road, leaning against my minivan. A layer of grit covered the hood, and we had only traveled a few hundred miles. It was Friday, an unseasonably warm day with a cool breeze and a bright sun. The blueness of the sky seeped down through the trees.

But all that I felt was discouragement and disgust and anger. In front of me, twenty yards up the road, our bus was stuck. Continue reading “How to Get a Bus Out of the Ditch”