Cade and I Discuss the Merits of an Invisible God Who Often Doesn’t Seem to be Listening

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“Hey, Dad, how come hard things happen in life?”

I stared into the rear view mirror, peering through the darkness to catch a glimpse of my 8-year-old son in the back seat of the minivan. After the meal at Friendly’s, I felt stuffed. Heat rushed from the dashboard, trying to put me to sleep. My recent back pains had even died down a bit now that I was sitting in the van. We were only waiting for Maile and the girls to come out with our takeaway ice cream, and then we’d be good to go.

“What do you mean by hard things?” That’s called a stalling tactic. Continue reading “Cade and I Discuss the Merits of an Invisible God Who Often Doesn’t Seem to be Listening”

If You Are Kind Only to Your Friends

Two images.

The pastor drives up to his church on a Friday morning. His week has pummeled him into submission: too many meetings, too many visits, too many decisions, and now he is left with two days to sharpen up his message before an early wake up on Sunday morning, a day of performing, of getting everything right, and then another week begins. Ad infinitum. Continue reading “If You Are Kind Only to Your Friends”

Fourteen-Day-Old-Already-Screwed-Up New Year’s Resolutions, and Listening to the Right Voices

“No one will want to read that.”

“If your friends knew about the things you’ve done, they’d be super disappointed and probably leave you.”

“If anyone found out about what was done to you, they’d secretly believe it was your fault. After all, it kind of was your fault.”

When you’re alone in your car, or on the train, or encountering an unexpected moment of silence, where do the voices in your head take you? When life taps the pause button on your to-do’s and schedules and scurrying from here to there, like a squirrel suddenly confronting a predator in the midst of hoarding acorns for the winter, which voices are you believing?
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Five Writing Secrets Found in the Movie, “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off”

I don’t remember the first time I watched Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, but (as I’ve explained while pulling writing secrets from other 80s movies) I was only nine years old for most of 1986 and there’s no way my parents were going to let me watch a PG-13 rated movie at that point. But it is one of those 80s classics, right up there with Breakfast Club and Can’t Buy Me Love.

Here are some of the secrets it has to teach us about writing: Continue reading “Five Writing Secrets Found in the Movie, “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off””

On Letting Go of Beautiful Things, and the Importance of January 11th

Here I am, an old man in a dry month,
Being read to by a boy, waiting for rain.
– TS Eliot

There is a time in the winter, approximately eleven days into a new year, when everything stops. The grass has finally given in and turned a greenish-tan, like oxidized copper. Cold air halts even the wind, perhaps just for a moment. And the only leaves that haven’t drifted off are those clinging to dead branches.
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