Why do we do it?
Yesterday I wrote about how so much of that comes from fear. But I think another reason we have a tendency to judge people is a result of our modern times – being right is seen as the ultimate “win”. We want to be right. And if someone disagrees with us, we will tear them and their argument apart in order to be right.
This is not the way of Christ.
He tells us to view others as better than ourselves.
He tells us to treat others as we would want to be treated.
He tells us to love even our enemies.
Henri Nouwen, in his book Here and Now, addresses this burden of judgment:
“We spend countless hours making up our minds about others. An unceasing exchange of opinions about people close by or far away keeps us distracted and allows us to ignore the truth that we ourselves are the first ones who need a change of heart and probably the only ones whose hearts we indeed can change.
“We always say again: “What about him? What about her?” What Jesus says to us, as he said to Peter, who wanted to know what would happen to John: “What does it matter to you. You are to follow me” (John 21:21-22)
“Imagine your having no need at all to judge anybody. Imagine your having no desire to decide whether someone is a good or bad person. Imagine your being completely free from the feeling that you have to make up your mind about the morality of someone’s behavior. Imagine that you could say: “I am judging no one!”
“Imagine – Wouldn’t that be true inner freedom?”
Are you brave enough to share with us the folks that you find yourself drawn to judge? Or maybe you’ve overcome a long-standing judgment you’ve held against certain types of people…I’d love to hear about it in the comments section below.