What Do Children Think About Death?

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Today we release Episode 02 of The Story of My Death, and it’s a poignant one. Listen in as we speak with Scott and Joy Bennett about their daughter Elli and her difficult entrance into the world. Their children, Sam and Anna, give us a unique, first person account of what it’s like for children who lose a sibling. In the words of Scott:

“You’ll want to listen to this interview when it releases tomorrow. Sam and Anna shared some deep things with Shawn and Caleb about their personal experience of losing Elli that they had never shared in as much detail with us. It’s pretty special.”

As usual when hearing these stories, there is sadness and heaviness, but there is also hope and peace.

A huge thanks to the Bennetts for sharing their story, as well as to our sponsor Wilde Funeral Home. The music in this episode was provided by Jake Lewis.

Check out Episode 02 HERE.

Angry Dave Asks, Why Should I Listen to a Podcast About Death?


So, Episode 01 of The Story of My Death hits the airwaves today. It’s a story told by a foster mom about the triplets she and her husband took into their care and what happened after that. It’s amazing. It’s sad. It’s inspiring. And it ends with one of my favorite Caleb Wilde quotes of the podcast so far:

“As somebody who is listening, I just want to commend you on your bravery, and say that I’m so happy to know there are people like you who exist in the world.”

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I got this message from my friend Angry Dave the other day:

I’m guessing I’m not alone in thinking I really don’t want to listen to a podcast about death. So explain to us all why we should.

Great question, Angry Dave. Here are a few reasons you should listen to our deathcast:

1 – There’s too much death denial in our culture. Listening to stories about death can help all of us come to a healthy awareness of our mortality and have a greater appreciation for life.

2 – Many of us (most of us?) don’t know how to exist around people who have had close encounters with death, especially tragic or complicated deaths. By listening to these candid storytellers, you’ll come to a better awareness of the needs of those who are grieving.

3 – The strength exhibited by the storytellers is inspiring.

4 – Why don’t you want to listen? Many of the standard answers to that question are actually reasons you should consider listening.

5 – Caleb Wilde is a funeral director, has a book contract with Harper One, and is a post-grad student at the University of Winchester completing the Death, Religion and Culture program. He’s one of the voices on the podcast and is also one of the most interesting men on the planet.

6 – Another reason to listen, in Caleb’s words (from his blog’s About page):

The metanarrative that we’ve been given is that death is entirely negative. We use war metaphors to describe our personal “battles” with terminal sickness as though we believe death is an enemy that needs to be fought. With the “death as negative” story, it’s made it easier for us to abdicate our responsibilities to the dead and dying over to the “death and dying professionals,” who have been trained to care for, beautify and hide the horrors of it.

But, there’s another narrative about death … that death can be beautiful. Death can allow us to see our own mortality, realize our finitude and pursue a meaningful life. For the dying, death can be a release of a slowly deteriorating body. Times of death can allow us to hug our loved ones, allow us to cry with our family and friends and honor a life well lived. Embracing death can allow us to embrace life. And contemplating our mortality can allow us to pursue vitality.  And when we embrace death, maybe we can take back death care.

Yes, death can be bad. Yes, death can be negative. But it can also be beautiful. And that alternate narrative needs to be discussed.

7 – People say a lot of silly or hurtful or ridiculous things to people who have just lost someone. Don’t be that person. In Episode 01, our storyteller shares 23 spiritual cliches to avoid saying to someone who just lost a loved one.

8 – Angry Dave, you look like you could use a good cry.
There you have it. Check out Episode 01, Lacey’s Story, HERE.
(By the way, it can really help a baby podcast like ours if you subscribe over at iTunes. I won’t get into the details. Trust me. There’s a link to subscribe over at our homepage.)



Our Podcast, The Story of My Death, is Here!


“I’m not afraid of death; I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” Woody Allen

A few months ago, or so the story goes, I sent a text to Bryan Allain (podcaster, blogger, humorist, friend) and Caleb Wilde (author, blogger, funeral director, friend).

Let’s start a podcast, I said.

It will be fun, I said.

What’s your idea? one of them asked.

It could be a podcast about death, I said.

*Insert sound of crickets chirping*

Surprisingly, they agreed. We called it The Story of My Death, and today Episode 00 is available. Why “00”? Well, this is kind of an introductory episode where we talk about why we’re doing it, what we hope to accomplish by telling stories about death, and why Caleb has an insatiable hunger (literal, not metaphorical). We also get into why we’re a little nervous about having a podcast in which people tell stories about death.

So, welcome to our podcast! I can’t wait to share the stories we’ve been collecting. Pretty incredible stuff.

If you’d like to listen to Episode 00 over at the Story of My Death website, you can do that HERE.

If you’re feeling generous, brave, or curious, and really want to help this thing shoot into the public consciousness, you can go to this page and subscribe to the podcast through iTunes. If you do that, you won’t miss an episode.

Finally, please share this with your friends! Click Share or Tweet at the bottom of this page, or post it on Google+ (whatever that is). Facebook it, email it, pony express it. You guys are awesome.

So get listening. And a huge thanks to Wilde Funeral Home for sponsoring the first three episodes and to the talented Jake Lewis for providing the music.