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Today’s guest post is brought to you by Alise Wright. She’s guest-posted her before, writing about the “Blank Page, Blinking Cursor.” Today she’s here to tell us about a book project for which she is gathering stories.

Lonely. Angry. On hold. Useless. Weighted down.

These are some of the words that people have shared about their experiences with depression.

For me, depression is a prison. It traps my body, keeping me from moving. It traps my thoughts, keeping me from creating. It traps my soul, keeping me from connecting. The real me gets locked away and instead I’m this lethargic, boring, detached person.

Last fall, I could feel myself sliding into that depressed spot. Despite everything in my life being pretty good, I was having a difficult time finding the ability to enjoy it. I could feel myself withdrawing from friends and that even when I’d had a good time with them, I wasn’t able to be fully present and would leave feeling empty. It was an unpleasant time.

So I did what I know I need to do when I feel depression closing in. I told someone. I talked to my husband about it. And I shared what I was going through on my blog. It was a poorly written, whiney post that I dashed off just to get it out there.

And it resonated with people.

Even though I felt alone in my struggle with depression, I was not alone. There were others going through the same thing. And by sharing even a little snippet of my story, it reminded others that they didn’t have to go through depression thinking they were alone either.

What emerged was something beautiful. An opportunity for others to share their own stories. A safe place where people could read and share and encourage one another with their words.

In the midst of something that can be extremely isolating, we found community.

But this community is incomplete. We need your voice as well.

I’m partnering with Civitas Press to gather these stories about depression into a book. If you have a story about depression, we would love to invite you to share it.

I know it’s hard. Depression has a stigma attached to it that can make it difficult to share honestly about your struggles. However, I believe that one of the best ways we can break the shame associated with depression is through the telling of our story. I have found that it not only helps others, but it helps me as well.

If you are interested in participating in the Not Alone book project, please head over to the Civitas website and download the project document. We are accepting submissions through May 24, so there is still time for you to add your voice to the collective.

No matter how it feels, you are not alone.

I remember boarding the District tube line in London, England. The whole place smelled of diesel and urine, but every once in a while you’d get this blast of hot air carrying the scent of baking bread.

That’s London for you.

I settled in for what was normally a quiet ride, standing in the middle aisle, my hand holding on to the rail above, my body swaying with each turn like a scarecrow in a fall breeze.

Then he boarded the train. His head was shaved, his clothes were disheveled and his eyes, they were fire. He carried a megaphone attached to a small speaker (presumably for outdoor use). He was quiet, until the tube train started moving through the dark recesses of underground tracks.

It was as if he woke up.

“Do you know God, brother?” he screamed, six inches from the face of an older man. The man didn’t say anything, just stared right past him, so the guy with fire in his eyes moved to the next person.

“Do you know Jesus?” he challenged, this time directing his vengeance at a girl in her early twenties.

“Yes,” she replied, her lips terse, her skin pale. “I’m a Christian.”

He squinted, as if examining her soul. Then he laughed a mean laugh.

“You’re no Christian. If you were, you’d be doing this,” he said, brandishing his megaphone before moving down the row.

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Whenever I explore different ways to communicate the concept of sin, I often hear the same comments.

“You’re not taking sin seriously enough,” they usually say. “You’re watering down the Gospel.” I grew up in a charismatic Evangelical church, so I understand the sentiment.

“You have to warn people,” some folks have commented. “You have to tell them that the wages of sin is death.”

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Imagine coming to the horrible realization that the highway overpass you are on ends in midair. You pull your car over to the shoulder and wait, hoping to warn any oncoming drivers of the predicament ahead.

The first car approaches, and you manage to wave them to a stop. They roll down their window.

“You’ve got to stop. The road is in disrepair. Keep going, and you’re dead.”

The person looks at you, clueless. See, the thing is, you’re in a foreign country and they don’t speak your language. They shrug their shoulders, start to pull away. You don’t know what else to do, so you grab the driver in a choke hold and start beating him upside the head, grabbing for his keys. But he drives off, angry and terrified.

The next car approaches. Now that you know they don’t speak your language, you skip straight to the beating part, hoping to bludgeon them unconscious before they, too, plummet to their death. Once again, scared and angry, they drive off.

* * * * *

When will we realize that we have to learn a new language?

Mom and dad acted strange all day. Mom kept rubbing her hands together, as if trying to pull the skin off the bones. Dad stayed home from work. He never stays home from work, so he didn’t know what to do with himself. And he kept walking past me, messing up my hair, and wiping his eyes.

“Hey, son,” he’d say, walking away to another area of the house where continued doing nothing.

That afternoon mom asked me what I wanted for dinner.

“Anything,” she said, tilting her head to the side, as if looking at me for the first time. Or the last. “Your choice.” I went with spaghetti and meatballs. I knew it would be easy, and cheap.

That night she was in my room, rearranging things. When I came in she had a duffel bag packed so full it looked like an inflated swimming device.

“No matter what, you keep this,” she said.

“Am I going some where?”

“Not for long,” she said. But I knew she was lying. She held her hand up under her nose, as if to stop a sneeze, and moved past me. Ten minutes later they walked me out into the rain, the pouring rain. We stood there, outside my building, on what felt like the loneliest night of my whole life. No one said anything. We just got wet.

Then a van pulled up. Mom stuffed a ticket into my hand.

“You don’t lose this,” she said, her eyes wide. “This is your life. You don’t give it to anyone.”

I nodded. Dad picked me up and set me down inside the van – against the dry seats I felt even more wet. Dad slammed the door. The van driver pulled away, as if nothing had happened. As if I wasn’t even there.

I looked behind me – two people sat there: a woman with a scared look on her face, and a man that didn’t look scared enough.

“Hi,” I said.

“No talking!” shouted the driver.

“I’m cold,” I said, quietly. The driver turned on the heat.

“No talking,” he said, this time in a smaller voice.

I leaned over on my overstuffed duffel bag and fell asleep.

* * * * *

This is where you get to decide the direction of the story. The question is, who is this kid?

1) Macy‘s son

2) The son of the man who lives on death

3) The son of the woman who had been chasing Macy

4) It’s not his identity that matters – it’s what’s in the duffel bag

To read the beginning of this story, or to see how previous weeks’ decisions worked out (majority marked in bold), click HERE

Last week I said that the church should stop saying, “Hate the sin, love the sinner.”

I still stand by that. It’s petty and cliche and something Christians should stop saying.

Last week I also said I wasn’t even sure if hating the sin while loving the sinner was possible.

Then Gerry left this comment (go HERE to read it in its entirety):

I loved that man and still do. I can’t wait to see him again and dance on the streets of Heaven with him.

But I hate his sin. With everything within me, I hate it, hate it, hate it. It stole his life from him before he knew how to live it. I want to punch it in the head, then hit it with a baseball bat, cut it in little pieces and spit on every piece.

Don’t tell me I don’t love him because I hate what killed him. He was my friend and I didn’t see you or any other love-niks there while his 6.5 frame shrunk to 110 pounds of sallow and scary skin, and he begged me to just hold his hands and pray for him while he struggled so hard to breathe.

And while I am spewing hate, I hate the drug addiction that separated Mike from his boys and made him an abusive, hurtful Dad. I hate it! Or the Oxy addiction that caused Rita to give blow jobs for another stupid pill. I hate it!

Obviously Gerry hated sin. And loved his friend.

So I was wrong. It is possible. This led me to my next question:

How? And why did Gerry’s story come across so overwhelmingly full of love and compassion, while the phrase “hate the sin, love the sinner” still rings false and hateful to me?

* * * * *

Gerry finished off his comment with the following thought:

If you are not skilled and good at loving the sinner while hating the sin, I doubt if you get out much, around sinners that is.

That’s it. That’s how it’s done. Because if I truly love someone, the mistakes they make that lead to their own pain will make me love them more, even while hating the thing that brings them pain. But if this person is some far off stranger, someone I don’t know and don’t care to get to know, then fear will drive me to hate not only what’s killing them. I’ll start hating them as well.

That’s what fear does.

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Another piece of the puzzle, offered in the comments by my friend Maria:

If we are willing to be known by others, faults and all, it is a little easier to love. If we are willing to accept the nonsensical love that God offers, it is easier to love. Let’s be real. We are all a complete mess, entirely hopeless. Then God intervenes and we have all of this acceptance, forgiveness, redemption, possibility. It is amazing. It is truly beyond comprehension and surely beyond words. From this place of acknowledging mercy, we can begin.

That’s where I want to start.

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Other similar posts include:

Things the Church Should Stop Saying
The Opposite of Love is not Hate
Words the Church Should Stop Using: Sin